Okay, so I have to admit that I have never picked up a woman in a bar. I’m sure I’m not alone. Mostly it has been a bit of “life-timing”. First, when I turned 21, I was still to poor to go into a bar. I might have been an Ivy Leaguer, but I was also a “financial aid” kid. Plus I always kinda hated beer. (I’m a supertaster! “No treatment is needed”) My drunken youth was mostly spent passing a bottle of bully hill back and forth. So I didn’t do the “bar culture” in my youth. I was a little too leftist for the bar scene anyways. Our college bar scene was pretty … greek. And I was still a bit too geek.
Then I got married way too young. To somebody who also never spent much time in bars. Actually to somebody who didn’t even drink.
It wasn’t until I was 10 years into my marriage and started doing a lot of business travel, that I found myself in bars. In bars with an expense account (even nicer). But I was also still married.
So finally, over a year ago, I found myself “emancipated” from my marriage, and .. omg.. dating!
One of the first woman I met (on CL of all places..) asked me right out.. “Do you pickup a lot of women in bars?”. This kind of gave my head a full headspin… she clearly thought I had the ability to pickup women in bars. Is it possible?
In the end, I think I’m still a pretty shy guy. My best relationships so far, all started online. All started with email and IM and lots of opportunity to be literate and whitty (which is easier when you can edit your response). But walking up to somebody dead cold, that I haven’t met, is still incredibly intimitading.
And to be honest, I’m really not interested in picking up women in bars. Fetish clubs and parties – yes! Bars… eh. Maybe not. But I figure the same skills are needed. Single women in bars get flooded with attention. What does a guy need to do to get noticed?
So, being the nerd that I am, I decided to do what any self respecting educated guy does… research!
So a few weeks ago, after doing some googling, I found this site. And after reading a WHOLE bunch of “testimonials” I forked over $20 and downloaded his “ebooks”. Although I figured with all the HEAVY SELLING of his book, maybe the author might actually have some skill in selling himself at the same time. I mean if you can sell yourself in bar, you might be able to sell yourself online.
I’m halfway into the “Double Your Dating” book, which is downloaded as a password protected PDF file. It is… actually poorly written. It has some interesting insights, but mostly reads like somebody just rambling on. Not organized. After a while it kind felt like I was actually reading the “how to be big jerk” secret journal.
I mean he says “Be Confident” and “Be Dominant”. Blah, is that it all it took? But you can’t walk up to a girl and say “I know how to use restraints”.
Oh well. Maybe I’ll just keep myself focused on using the internet to lure college students into compromising situations. Or at least one in particular.
